Lobster Bisque

The secret to this richly flavored lobster bisque recipe lies in the shells from the lobster tail that get pureed into the soup itself. This is one appetizer soup that will really wow your guests! Be sure to strain the soup through a fine-mesh sieve twice to get the traditional smooth, creamy texture.

Ingredients

Preparation

  1. Using kitchen shears, cut along length of each lobster tail shell. Remove vein running through tail. (If needed, rinse the lobster tails under cold running water. Drain and pat dry with paper towels.) Using your fingers, loosen the meat from the shells; remove and set aside. Cut or break the shells into large pieces.
  2. Melt butter in a large saucepan over medium heat. Add lobster shells, onion, celery, garlic, bay leaves and thyme; cook, stirring often, until the vegetables are softened, about 10 minutes. Sprinkle flour over the vegetable mixture; cook for 2 minutes, stirring constantly. Stir in tomato paste until the mixture is well coated. Add brandy; cook, stirring constantly, until mostly evaporated. Pour in seafood (or lobster) stock and chicken broth and bring to a boil over high heat. Reduce heat to low and simmer, stirring occasionally, until just slightly thickened and flavors have melded, about 30 minutes.
  3. Working in 2 batches, transfer the mixture to a blender. Remove center piece of blender lid (to allow steam to escape); secure the lid on the blender and place a clean towel over the opening. Process until blended, about 2 minutes. (Use caution when blending hot liquids.) Pour through a fine-mesh sieve into a large measuring cup, pressing with the rounded side of a ladle to squeeze out the liquid; discard solids. Strain the batch a second time. Repeat with the remaining soup: blend, then strain twice.
  4. Stir cream, vinegar, cayenne, salt and 1 tablespoon lemon juice into the bisque. Divide evenly among 8 warm bowls. Toss the reserved lobster meat with the remaining ½ tablespoon lemon juice. Top each serving with some of the lobster, sprinkle with chives and serve immediately.

Go Bold or Go Home! Top Unexpected Trends of the Year

Trends ebb and flow on the runways every season, but looking at the bigger picture, 2019 was the year of unexpected trends. And you can thank celebrities for that: Stylish stars hit the streets in daring pieces that were all about embracing the surprise factor. These trendsetters didn’t just carry any ol’ bags around—their bags had to be either super tiny, or super huge. Think they wore simple, sexy strappy sandals to go with them? Think again. Kim Kardashian West revived the ’90s flip-flop heel instead, which went on to become the most polarizing footwear style of the year, embraced by everyone from Rihanna to Katie Holmes.

In the menswear world, Hollywood gents were just as risk-taking with their fashion, too. Professional peacockers such as Harry Styles, Ezra Miller, Lil Nas X, and more took the plunge by experimenting with murses—that’s a man purse, by the way—and dainty jewelry that could easily have been borrowed from the girls. They even dabbled in some of the most surprising womenswear trends of the moment, too, like when Mark Ronson stepped out in flared pants that appeared as if plucked right out of the ’70s. (Styles has also been rocking bell-bottoms on the regular.)

The main 2019 trend takeaway? This past year was all about stars finding the most unlikeliest—and flashiest—pieces from forgotten decades, and then making them (somehow) chic again. Below, the six unexpected trends that took over 2019.

1. Sexy Cardis & Sweater Vests

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A look that was first ignited in the early fall (which is prime knitwear season, after all), stars put a sexier spin on both cardigans and sweater vests this year. Who could forget Katie Holmes’s Khaite cashmere bra and cardigan set that went unexpectedly viral? Everyone had to have it! Model Bella Hadid also did a cooler spin on the sweater vest when she wore a knitted utility vest, by emerging designer Reese Cooper. More recently, Harry Styles took his impressive knit game to the next level, wearing a sweater vest covered in sheep.

2. ’70s Flares

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Skinny jeans, who? 2019 was all about ditching pin-thin fits in favor of more voluminous shapes instead—specifically flared out at the bottom. The ’70s-style, wide-leg pant made a huge comeback on both men and women, appearing in a variety of styles, too. There were tons of groovy jeans to be had (Margot Robbie and Priyanka Chopra both offered their takes on the trend) and even fun dress pants as well (à la Mark Ronson and Styles, who has made bell-bottoms a recurring signature).

3. Statement Bags (Micro, Oversized & Murses)

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Bags are a daily essential—but 2019 wasn’t about practical carry-alls. This year, celebrities used handbags to make a statement: they were either super tiny, or hilariously large. Just this past week at the AMAs, Lizzo stole the show when she carried the teeniest, tiniest Valentino bag you’ve ever seen on the red carpet. At the other end of the spectrum, model Kendall Jenner has also stepped out holding a giant Hermès Birkin bag, her go-to traveling essential. Men even sported purses this year, too: Ansel Elgort looked particularly slick when he paired his black top-handle style with a classic khaki suit.

4. Flip-Flop Heels

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Flip-flop, click-clack: Those were the two sounds that you heard on the streets around the world this year. Why? Because celebrities revived the divisive flip-flop heel of the ’90s. The thonged stiletto was first worn by Kim Kardashian West, who often sported Yeezy styles designed by her husband, Kanye West; soon after, the craze continued when fellow trendsetting stars such as Rihanna and Rosie Huntington-Whiteley started rocking it in their own way, too. (Huntington-Whiteley particularly loves her Bottega Veneta pairs.)

5. Baroque Men’s Jewelry

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Men’s jewelry is traditionally understated and subtle—but this year, men went a prettier, daintier route, slipping on jewels that felt refreshingly feminine. Ezra Miller wore ornate earrings on the red carpet, while Lil Nas X often favored sparkly necklaces. During fashion month, rapper A$AP Rocky—who also rocked a babushka scarf for much of 2019—went baroque with an ornate choker and a pearl necklace that looked straight out of a chic grandma’s jewelry box.

6. Fall Maxi Skirts

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Those long, easy-breezy skirts aren’t just for the beach during the summertime: Celebrities switched things up and wore the maxi skirt in the fall instead. The end result was surprisingly sophisticated, especially when paired with a more structured blazer or coat, as Priyanka Chopra and Jennifer Lawrence did. The look got the royal stamp of approval, too: Kate Middleton wore elegant maxi hemlines for a number of her fall appearances.

https://www.vogue.com/vogueworld/article/unexpected-celebrity-fashion-trends-2019

Teaching kids good manners

What happens when you ask a group of elementary-school kids how they would teach their children manners if they were the parents? Based on the group of kids we brought together in Atlanta, you get a number of really good ideas. So, parents, listen up!

Katerina Hoysa, 8, said she would take her kids to a really nice restaurant so they could watch how the other diners behaved. “And they’ll see how everyone else is doing it, and they’ll start doing it too,” Katerina said as part of CNN’s video series called “If I Were a Parent,” featuring conversations with children.
Felipe Ramirez-Abrahamsson, 10, said he would teach his kids himself by sitting at a table and showing them how they should put napkins on their laps and keep their mouths closed while eating. And if that didn’t work? “I would probably get them a private tutor if I had to do that,” he said.
If he were looking for someone to work privately with his kids, he might turn to Faye de Muyshondt, founder of socialsklz:-), which offers private and group programs to teach children and young adults the social skills they need for the playground and the classroom.
De Muyshondt came up with the idea for her business, now nearly eight years old, while teaching in the Department of Media, Culture and Communication at New York University.
“Social interaction and communication skills were just crumbling,” said de Muyshondt, a mother of two and author of “Socialsklz:-) for Success: How to Give Children the Skills They Need to Thrive in the Modern World.” When she started teaching, she would look at students during lectures. Five years later, she got used to looking at the backs of computer screens. “So, I mean, we have to teach these skills. It’s more important than ever to teach these skills. We’ve got to start with the basics.”
Too many parents either don’t teach their kids the basics of manners or try to teach their children at the wrong time, she said. “The big problem is that when parents go about ‘teaching’ these skills, they’re usually in a corrective mode, which is not a teaching moment,” de Muyshondt said.
Admonishing a child for not looking someone in the eye while shaking their hand or not saying “please” or “thank you” isn’t effective, she said. What parents need to do is teach their kids about good manners, help their children practice and then apply the manners to real-world settings.
“The cool thing about teaching these skills is that every day there’s the opportunity to practice,” she said. For instance, a parent can teach a child what goes into a greeting and how they need to remember “eyes, smile, body language,” and then have them practice it and do it for real.
De Muyshondt likes to role-play with students: She’ll do one greeting with her head down, no smile and bad body language, and the kids react by saying she seems angry, mad and unhappy. Then she does a version in which she makes eye contact, smiles and uses good body language, and the kids right away view her as happy and nice.
“It’s like this crazy moment of ‘I didn’t even say anything, and I made an impression on you,’ but that has to be taught, and there’s no place where kids are learning these skills, which is why I started socialslkz:-) and why this business, this little random idea, turned into a business.”
De Muyshondt encourages parents to teach kids why good manners, such as saying “please” and “thank you,” are important. In some programs, she’ll ask students how they would feel if they got her a really thoughtful present that they spent time both finding and wrapping but she didn’t say anything when she opened it.
By focusing on empathy, thoughtfulness and gratitude, they can see why this is important, she said. As opposed to “you should do this” and “you should do that,” it’s getting kids to understand why it doesn’t feel great to serve someone a meal and not receive a “thank you,” for instance.
“It’s just rude,” said Ava Lambert, 7, one of the kids we interviewed in Atlanta, when I asked her why it’s better to have good manners than to say something such as “Mom, get me this; get me that.”
Parents have been complaining about their kids’ poor manners for decades, but the lack of manners and etiquette seems to be a bigger concern in an age of helicopter parenting, when parents get overly involved in their children’s lives and happiness, de Muyshondt said.
“There was this wave of parenting … it being so much about the child that there was an oversight on (the part of) the people around the child and the fact that we don’t all operate independently, that we live in a village,” she said.
By trying to secure our kids’ happiness and provide them with the best and most enriched lives, we sort of forgot about the other half of it: that there are other people in the village, she said. “I think that that’s had an impact on the way that kids socialize and interact also.”
Though de Muyshondt says that year after year, the problem of kids lacking strong social and communication skills has only gotten worse, she has noticed a recent shift on the part of parents.
“Parents are starting to get more on board with, ‘Hey … let’s start putting limitations. Let’s start bringing good old-fashioned, they call it, manners and etiquette, but bringing that back into the picture,’ ” she said.
“Especially with modern technology, it’s the skills that you and I maybe picked up by the time we were 10 or 12 years old, are taking longer and longer because there is less face-to-face interaction.”

https://edition.cnn.com/2017/09/06/health/good-manners-teaching-kids-parenting/index.html

How to have the best relationship with your boss

Your boss plays a big role in the trajectory of your career. A good boss that encourages new challenges and helps grow your skills and provides you with exposure to management can rocket you up the career ladder, while a bad one can stunt your growth and make you feel trapped.

What makes a good boss?

Micromanagers beware.
While not a lot of people like their boss, it’s really not that hard to be a good one. We asked CNN Business readers what they want from their boss and they said it’s all about trust, respect and support.
Here are the five characteristics bosses should pay attention to if they aspire to be a great leader.

Help, my boss hates me

So here’s the thing: You need to get along with your boss.
Your manager has the power to promote or fire you, speak up for you or assign you high-profile projects. So, it’s in your best interest to forge a good relationship.
If you and your boss are on rocky ground, don’t worry. There are steps you can take to mend the relationship.
Step one: Stop complaining. Walking around the office lamenting to your peers about the situation hurts your brand and could eventually make its way back to your boss and damage the relationship even further.
Step two is to start paying more attention to your boss’s work style and adapt to better fit their expectations. It also helps to pay attention to when the boss is giving kudos to get a better sense of what appeals to them.
Read more about how to fix the relationship here.

Your boss works all the time

We all want to impress the boss, but when your boss is working 24/7 it’s hard to keep up.
Having a workaholic boss can mean working long hours and sacrificing personal time to meet all the demands. It can also lead to burnout.
But here’s the thing: You can’t change your boss. The key is setting boundaries and sticking to them.
Speaking of bosses that work around the clock: What happens when you get a text from your boss late at night or over the weekend? Do you have to respond?

I want to be a boss some day

If you strive to eventually move up the ladder and become someone’s boss, you have to prove you have strong management skills. But don’t worry: You don’t have to be sitting at the top of the org chart to be a leader in the office.
Even if you don’t currently have a management role, you can still highlight your leadership capabilities without stepping on anyone’s toes.

Attention bosses: Your mood plays a big role in the office

Germs aren’t the only thing that can spread quickly in the office. Emotions are contagious — particularly those from the top.
Your bad mood not only affects your work performance, but it can also influence your team.
Negative emotions can be detrimental to the office: they can hurt productivity, morale and quality of work and can increase absenteeism.
Here’s how you can stop the spread of negative emotions and create a productive and harmonious workplace.

https://edition.cnn.com/2019/10/16/success/improve-relationship-with-boss/index.html