The Very Best Basics to Invest in This Fall

Ask a Vogue editor about the season’s top trends or which micro-mini bag is going to sell out first, and she or he can rattle off a dozen suggestions. But you’d be better off asking a much simpler question: Which items in your closet do you wear the most? Those pieces tend to reveal so much more about the wearer: They’re our perfect, go-to basics, the things we reach for on the best and worst days, that we never get tired of, that we’ve spent years searching for: the perfect jean, the perfect sweater, the perfect shoe.

It’s inevitable that we start dreaming about those pieces—and maybe picking up fresh new versions—at the end of summer, when the humidity is stifling, all of our summer dresses need to be dry-cleaned, and we have “back to school” on the brain (for us, it’s “back to fashion month”). Here at Vogue, what qualifies as a fall “basic” could range from a black sweater to pair of honey bee–adorned pearl earrings (both have wear-everyday potential!), and while some of us are buying things we already know we love (like fashion news editor Staff Yotka, who’s investing in another pair of clunky loafers), others are in the mood to try something totally new (like senior fashion news writer Brooke Bobb, who wants to wear more color). Skip the end-of-summer sales and get a head start on fall with all of their expert picks below.

Sally Singer, Creative Director

My fall must-haves involve one big new splurge—a camel hair and washed satin coat from Zanini—and then a restock on my most-worn basics. The Row jeans cost a small fortune, but I replace them once every seven years (amortize!).

Officine Generale Melody shirt

OFFICINE GENERALE
$269

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Esk Issy crew

ESK CASHMERE
$453

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The Row Ashland slim-leg ankle jeans

NEIMAN MARCUS
$590

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Maryam Nassir Zadeh Olympia wedge sandals

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$444

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Mark Holgate, Fashion News Director

An update on the Guernsey sweater I have been wearing for years: I’m switching the plain navy blue, the classic, for a new striped version. It’s almost as much as buying a coat, but I am obsessed with this Loewe houndstooth scarf, especially since it’s made in Scotland. This Carhartt jacket is lightweight yet can also stand up to the unpredictable elements, which is essentially the definition of fall in New York!

Guernsey Woollens traditional jumper

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$94

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Carhartt Dry Harbor waterproof jacket

DAVES NEW YORK
$80

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Loewe fringed houndstooth wool scarf

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$550

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Chioma Nnadi, Fashion News Director

Though it might be blisteringly hot right now, it’s usually at this time of year when I start thinking about what coat I want to rock for the fall. At the moment, I’m loving the idea of a toggle coat as my staple, though I’m feeling for something with a twist. Rokh’s deconstructed version of that classic Paddington Bear style totally fits the bill. As far as jewelry goes, I’m a sucker for layering necklaces, even in the fall. I’m into the idea of a pearl-studded choker, like this one from Washed Ashore, peeking out from a crew-neck sweater, say. Plus, it’s so delicate I’ll basically never have to take it off. My favorite pieces always come with a sense of humor. With that in mind, Of Rare Origin’s new honey bee pearl earrings are just the kind of thing I can see myself wearing with everything. And when it comes to layering pieces, nothing beats a good long-sleeved graphic tee. I’ve started collecting the ones by the L.A.-based brand Total Luxury Spa.

Rokh deconstructed wool oversized duffle coat

BERGDORF GOODMAN
$2,130

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Washed Ashore Tarita choker

WASHED ASHORE
$585

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Of Rare Origin Bee My Honey pearl drop earrings

OF RARE ORIGIN
$1,100

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Total Luxury Spa Mr. Wisdom tee

TOTAL LUXURY SPA
$65

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Rickie De Sole, Head of Fashion Initiatives

I think the key to fall dressing is to layer! I swear by Rag & Bone’s white T-shirts and Proenza Schouler or Vince black ones. They’re the perfect length—not too short, not too long. I wear them under everything from Chanel blazers to my La Ligne striped sweaters, which are my other go-to for fall. This cropped one pairs just as well with a skirt as it does with my blue jeans. Lastly, Dôen dresses. I wear them with sandals in the summer and add tights and boots come fall. I just ordered this one.

Rag & Bone The Tee

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$90

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Vince essential crewneck top

NORDSTROM
$75

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La Ligne Mini Maren wool-and-cashmere sweater

NORDSTROM
$250

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Doen Mountian dress

SHOP DOEN
$268

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Steff Yotka, Fashion News Editor

For me, nothing is more essential for a fall wardrobe than a big, clunky black shoe. With tights, socks, and a miniskirt, it’s the thing that will carry me all the way to winter.

Prada chunky patent lace-up shoes

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$890

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Falke pure matte semi-opaque tights

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$38

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Emily Farra, Senior Fashion News Writer

My fall wardrobe is built on a foundation of three things: Citizens of Humanity jeans, which fit me better than any other brand; Khaite featherweight cashmere sweaters, which are cozy without being bulky; and Margaux ballet flats, which are both elegant and wildly comfortable. I could wear those pieces all day, every day and never get bored; I’d just mix in different jewelry and accessories. On that note, I recently picked up Emily Levine Milan’s crystal drop earrings, which I love so much (and get so many questions about!) that I might need a second pair.

Khaite Viola cashmere sweater

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$660

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Citizens of Humanity Annica high-rise wide-leg jeans

MODA OPERANDI
$240

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Margaux The Demi

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$145

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Emily Levine crystal moon earrings

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$45

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Willow Lindley, Accessories Director

Nothing takes the sting out of saying goodbye to summer like celebrating with two new instant classics. For the past two years, I’ve invested in a new Proenza Schouler sweater at the beginning of fall and end up living in it all winter. I’ve been seriously lusting after these McQueen flat boots since seeing them on the runway; they’re a practical, yet exciting upgrade on my traditional winter boot.

Proenza Schouler cropped wool-and-cashmere turtleneck sweater

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$890

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Alexander McQueen tread lace-up boot

ALEXANDR MCQUEEN
$1,150

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Chloe Malle, Contributing Editor

I love these suede leggings from Off Track: chic enough for any meeting, but comfortable enough to wear at home, legs curled (my usual position), and made sustainably with leather that is a byproduct of the food industry. I’ll pair them with this Meme Chose tuxedo shirt and top it all off with a House of Fluff faux leopard car coat, the perfect transitional jacket that pulls everything together.

Offtrack OT leggings black suede

OFFTRACK
$695

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Meme Chose The Graham

MEME-CHOSE
$155

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House of Fluff leopard car coat

HOUSE OF FLUFF
$950

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Anny Choi, Editor

My go-to fall basic is a men’s button-down shirt, so when I saw Alexander Wang’s tuxedo shirt dress on Malgosia Bela last winter, I knew I needed this elevated version! I also found a perfectly oversized striped one from the men’s section at Gap for that I will keep on rotation every day. As for accessories, I love a classic, well-made, logo-less bag. Metier London makes my favorite bags right now, and a pair of Bensimon tennis shoes will be perfect for running around during fashion month.

Alexander Wang cotton-poplin shirt

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$750

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Métier Roma small shoulder bag

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$20,950

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Bensimon tennis lacet trainers

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$31

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Brooke Bobb, Senior Fashion News Writer

I will always gravitate towards a minimal knit and high-rise jeans for fall, but I’d also like to try and incorporate more florals into my repertoire. I’m going to experiment with softer prints layered with a chunky sweater and a pair of mules. My main goal is to keep wearing color and prints and not to shove all the brighter, bolder pieces to the back of my closet once summer is over.

Bernadette neon floral-print silk-blend satin midi dress

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$980

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Khaite Vivian cropped flared jeans

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$340

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Ganni V-neck wool-blend cardigan

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$280

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Prada leopard-print calf-hair mules

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$950

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Caroline Griswold, Market Manager

For fall, my go-to is always a good pair of wide-leg jeans. I’m currently loving this pair from Mother that feels very authentic and is surprisingly flattering! I’ll add a blazer and sweater or something a little lighter for these late-summer nights. I’m also into this top from DoDo Bar Or that has the best fall oranges and a vintage feel. Add the Tory clogs, and it’s my favorite mix of groovy ’70s vibes!

DoDo Bar Or Peggy floral-print crepe top

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$515

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Mother The Enchanter jeans

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$295

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Tory Burch Blythe calf-hair studded clog

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$378

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Laird Borelli-Persson, Archive Editor

Classics are really speaking to me these days. None more so than Chanel’s cream and black spectator slingbacks, which always remind me of a picture of Marisa Berenson from the archive!

Chanel slingbacks

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$875

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Christian Allaire, Fashion and Style Writer

Heeled boots are what I wear pretty much every single day, even in the summer. But I’m excited to wear them with chunky knits and jackets in the fall. I waited so long to invest in a leather moto jacket, but last year I finally did, and it’s my fall staple. I love wearing it with turtlenecks and dress pants for work. I’m a big fan of Understated’s because they don’t cost a month’s rent.

Calvin Klein 205W39NYC Tex Original spazzolato leather boots

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$400

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Understated Leather Easy Rider

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$495

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Alexandra Gurvitch, Editor

I am obsessed with these Eve Denim workwear jeans with a utility shirt from Wardrobe NYC. Top it off with this Prada coat with the hardware accent and woven Bottega Veneta boots—a great addition to my black boot arsenal!

Prada belted wool coat

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$3,670

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Wardrobe.Nyc patch-pocket cotton shirt

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$390

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Bottega Veneta Bloc boots in Stuoia Nappa

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$1,930

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Madeline Fass, Associate Market Editor

I have been using every rainy day this summer as an excuse to swap dainty heels for a heavier loafer and sock moment. With fall approaching, I can’t wait to wear them more, and some chic ribbed socks are a good first step. Chunky, lug-sole loafers from Labucq are on my wishlist, and while I patiently wait for them to become available, I plan to shop for a twist on a classic trench and more leather jackets to wear as tops in place of sweaters.

Rejina Pyo Rhea belted laminated wool trench coat

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Nanushka Poppy tie-front vegan leather top

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$395

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Comme Si cotton white

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Madeline Swanson, Accessories Editor

To me, the best basics are defined by comfort and versatility (oh, and not needing to iron them!). Subtle and easy layering pieces like SVNR’s adjustable slip dress and MadHappy’s unisex hoodie are the ultimate unfussy wardrobe staples to wear from morning ’til night this fall—not to mention, they go with every single pair of shoes I already own!

SVNR midi slip in nude

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Madhappy. heritage hoodie

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How does your child’s screen time measure up?

It’s not unusual for children to sulk or throw a tantrum when parents demand they switch off the television or put down the phone, but for parents, what’s on that screen — or how long a child has been staring at it — is the bigger worry.

The American Academy of Pediatrics warns that overuse of digital media and screens can put children and teens at risk of obesity, sleep problems, cyberbullying and negative performance at school. There are also safety concerns: The academy encourages parents to talk to their children about online safety and safeguarding privacy, ask them to refrain from risky online behavior like sexting and be wary of online solicitations.
Just how much time are children spending buried in screens?
A report released this year by Common Sense Media said children up to age 8 spend an average of 2 hours and 19 minutes every day on screen media. The lion’s share of that time is occupied by TV and video viewing alone; it takes up 72% of all screen time.
That’s an increase from 2011, when the average daily screen media time for the same age group was 1 hour 55 minutes. Time spent on most devices, including TV, computers, video games and DVDs, has dropped since 2011, but time spent on mobile phones has increased significantly. (The recent results were obtained through a survey of 1,454 parents of children age 8 or under conducted in January and February.)
For 8- to 12-year-olds, the average time spent using screen media every day was 4 hours and 36 minutes, according to a 2015 Common Sense Media report. Tweens spent an average of 4½ hours per day with screen media and 6 hours with all media, including reading and listening to music.
The report said the top activity among tweens was watching TV: Nearly 62% of those surveyed said they watch TV every day. But according to the 2015 report, there are differences in how tweens of different genders use their screen time. Boys spend more time playing console video games, while girls spend more time on music and social media. Mobile devices accounted for 41% of all screen time among tweens.
The American Academy of Pediatrics recommends limiting screen media use for children younger than 18 months to video chatting. For older children, it advises that parents choose high-quality content and watch it with their children to help them understand what they’re seeing.
Moreover, the academy says that screen media use should not interfere with children’s sleep and exercise routines. The organization urges parents to ensure that their children have media-free times with the family and designate areas of the home as media-free zones.

The Ultimate Guide to Bulletproof Habits

Part I: Why Do Habits?

1.1 Jane Was Suicidal
1.2 The Slight Edge

Part II: The Habits Toolkit

2.1 Your Inner World: Mental Habits

2.1.1 Gratitude
2.1.2 Visualization
2.1.3 Mantras
21.4 Opposition Thinking

2.2 Habits for your Outer World

2.2.1 The Planning Habit
2.2.2 The Physical Habit
2.2.3 The Learning Habit
2.2.4 Habits to Refresh Yourself
2.2.5 The Anti-Habits Habit: The Unschedule
2.2.6 Don’t Forget to “Cycle Off” Habits
2.2.7 The Big Block of Cheese Day
2.2.8 Habits of Reflection
2.2.9 Bonus Section: Money Habits

Part III: How to Install Habits

3.1 How to Start
3.2 My Template for an Exceptional Life
3.3 Final Words

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In three words, here is the secret to living at a level of success beyond your wildest dreams: Make your bed.

The most direct, fulfilling route to greatness is not through grand strategy, clever maneuvers, inborn talent or the right connections; it’s the path of small, consistent and patient steps repeated again and again.

Not inspired? That’s OK. By the end of this read, I plan to obliterate your mental blocks to doing the day-to-day stuff and light the fire of habits in you.

For 15 years, I’ve methodically and with intent studied the most successful men and women, both living and passed, and here is the common thread in their achievement: They consistently made their beds, metaphorically speaking.

Sure, strategy, talent, connections and often luck played a part in their stratospheric rise, but almost none of those great humans credit those things with their achievement—they point to the beauty of micro-actions.

Your body is a ham sandwich…

After you swallow a bite of food, stomach acids and enzymes break raw materials into constituent parts. The intestines mash it up more and specialized cells grab onto sugars, amino and fatty acids, vitamins, and minerals, then pass them into the bloodstream.

These nutrients arrive at each cell in our body, where glucose is used as energy. Molecules, acids, carbs and proteins build the structure and content of the roughly 37.2 trillion cells in your body. What’s the point of this extremely simplified science lesson? We are literally what we eat. Your physical body is broccoli. Or a hot pocket.

…and your life is your thousand daily decisions.

“How we spend our days is, of course, how we spend our lives. What we do with this hour, and that one, is what we are doing.” –Annie Dillard

In every way that matters, this food analogy is the story of how we live. Food becomes cells just like each action becomes your 80 years on this planet. Don’t make your bed for too many days in a row and your life will look the way your body would after eating cotton candy for every meal.

Neglect the bed and then you might not feel like doing the dirty dishes, skip work and skip the gym. Before long, the snowball effect has become a filthy black puddle of melted water all over your life. One bad habit leads to the next, and—follow that path too far—even becomes crippling depression.

On the flipside, make your bed in the morning and you have accomplished one thing. That motivates you to bang out 20 push-ups. Then to shower, make breakfast and do more productive things. Produce and create consistently and you’re almost guaranteed to create a notable life.

Who told you it’s boring?

In my 20s, I made it my mission to have no mission. I looked at people who repeated the same habits as dull, lifeless, on the borderline of dementia, even. Mindless automatons. I wanted to live a wild adventure, spontaneously, staying out and getting up when I pleased. Those people who lived the same lives every day? Not for me, thanks very much.

Living with that mindset eventually led me into predictable emotions: angry about my lack of success, frustrated because I didn’t know what to do with my life, and clinically depressed because I was destroying my brain chemistry with “Spontaneous and Fun!” drinking, irregular sleep habits, and a bachelor’s diet of sandwiches and meat and potatoes. I felt less like Richard Branson and more like Bill Murray in Groundhog Day.

Habits do take work and persistence, so what’s the payoff? If I accomplish nothing else in this article, I hope to help you see clearly that great habits bring great joy.

Part I: Why Do Habits?

“Sow an act, reap a habit. Sow a habit, reap a character. Sow a character, reap a destiny.” —Charles Reade

1.1 Jane Was Suicidal

After a concussion that didn’t heal right, Jane McGonigal was suicidal. “My brain started telling me, Jane, you want to die,” she said in her viral 2012 TED talk. But instead of succumbing to her dark thoughts, she turned her recovery into a game: Jane the Concussion Slayer. The game was simple: Avoid the bad guys (bright lights and crowded places) and seek out power-ups.

Want to try some of those power-ups? Stand up and take three steps. Or, make your hands into fists and raise them high over your head for five seconds. Congratulations, you just earned +1 physical resilience.

“Within just a couple days of starting to play, that fog of depression and anxiety went away,” Jane said.

Her game is now an app called SuperBetter and it’s helped people around the world to overcome challenges.

What was at play here? Only the awesome power of making your bed; the power of small, simple habits repeated to tilt your world on its axis. Three steps may not seem like much, but in those steps, you finish a marathon, cure cancer, put humans on Mars, build an Apple or Google, and build the life you want.

Those seemingly insignificant decisions you make every day? They contain infinite power.

1.2 The Slight Edge

“The difference between who you are and who you want to be is what you do.” –Bill Phillips

If you saw one, you would say that the lavender and pink flowers of the water hyacinth are beautiful. Native to South America, it’s one of the fastest growing plants in the world. It can double in size every two weeks by sending out shoots that create daughter plants. If you spot a single one floating on a pond, come back in two weeks and you’d barely notice any growth. A few months later, half the pond might be covered. But return the day after that, and these plants would cover the entire pond.

Daily changes always seem small—until enough time passes and those seemingly insignificant habits become massive shifts in your life.

Habits work like compound interest. At 20, start investing only $500 per month at a conservative 5% return rate, and by the time you’re ready to retire at 60, you’ve got $769,868.50 in the bank ($529,000 of which is accumulated interest).

Author Jeff Olson has dubbed this phenomenon “The Slight Edge”: mundane, simple, seemingly insignificant choices, which, compounded daily, lead to any heights of success you dare to imagine.

What if you improved yourself just one-tenth of 1% each day for 365 days? At the end of that year, you would theoretically have improved yourself by 44%! How could you improve yourself by a tenth of a percent each day? Read a chapter of a brilliant book, do 50 push-ups or… make your bed.

Every single decision you make improves or diminishes your life. Successful people choose habits that make good decisions automatic, and reap the rewards.

Part II: The Habits Toolkit

2.1 Your Inner World: Mental Habits

“Change your thoughts, change your life.” – Dr. Wayne Dyer

By now, you can see the power of habit, but which ones help you level up fastest?

I started consciously experimenting with them in 2005 with a simple list of tasks I needed to accomplish every month at work. In the intervening 14 years, I’ve read hundreds of books about GSD (getting sh*t done), living well, and have experimented with numerous methods and even created a few of my own.

I turned myself into a productivity ninja, but until recently, even with all my tools and experience, I felt limited by my greatest challenge: me.

What I learned is that all the tools and life hacks you apply to your external world are only half as effective until you work on your own mental state; your mindset.

The Absolute #1 Foundational Habit: Mind Your Mind

Not long ago, it was normal for me to wake up and hit the gym, review my most important yearly goals, divide the day’s tasks into urgent and important, eliminate distractions, and force myself to work.

In spite of my good-on-paper routine, I would finish five Pomodoros and feel completely burnt out.

In my head, I didn’t believe that my business could succeed. I didn’t believe that I was “good enough.” And I believed that it was hard to make money—that it would only come to me if I made terrible sacrifices that dishonored my integrity.

I was divided against myself, driving with the handbrake on. I was never going to get to where I was going until I started to work on my internal state. Here are the most important habits that you should focus on if you want to take your foot off the brakes of your life.

2.1.1 Gratitude

It sounded bizarre when I first heard Tony Robbins say it.

“You can’t feel fear or anger while feeling gratitude at the same time.”

I was not in control of my anger and fear at the time, and so the idea that I could be free of these chains using the bolt cutters of gratitude was an alien concept.

I tried it anyway, and the more I practiced gratitude, the less I experienced negative emotions. Today, I take at least five minutes a day to list in my head what I’m grateful for, and feel that emotion.

I do this after my meditation, first counting qualities about myself that I’m thankful for: my integrity, sense of humor and my healthy body. Then I give thanks for the people in my life: my wife, my brother, nieces and nephews, my writer clients at So You Want to Write? Lastly, I finish with the “things” that I’m grateful for: a rental property that funds my travel, my car that takes me places.

Tony Robbins was right again: The more consistently I practice feeling grateful, the less I deal with the handbrakes of anger, fear, frustration or sadness.

2.1.2 Visualization

After only five minutes of gratitude, I’m in a perfectly blissful, high-energy state—the perfect situation to start creating mental pictures in my mind of what I want in my life.

This includes not only tangible things like hosting a sold-out workshop or buying a new laptop, but more importantly picturing the kinds of experiences I want to have in my life: laughing with my wife, having great conversations with an interesting group of friends on vacation and staring in wonder at the sunrise every morning.

I found visualization incredibly difficult when I first started to practice it. I had let my imagination atrophy—a state brought on by an always-connected, hyper-stimulated world. Start simply and don’t expect too much at first, and I promise you, eventually you will be able to create more complex universes in your mind.

Why do this?

What you want in your life, you must first create in your mind.

2.1.3 Mantras

I remember my breakthrough moment in early 2018, when at last I understood the importance of taking control of each thought in my mind (i.e. deliberately choosing my mindset).

I read with fasciation in Robin Sharma’s The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari the idea that, “You truly cannot afford the luxury of one negative thought—not even one.”

Mantras are the antidote to unhelpful thoughts.

“A mantra is nothing more than a collection of words strung together to create a positive effect,” writes Sharma.

The second half of my breakthrough came from, of all places, Tony Robbins’ book about financial freedom, Unshakeable. In one of the final chapters, he explains that money is worthless unless it helps you achieve the internal state and feelings that you desire for yourself and others. “You can choose to live in a beautiful state,” he says.

And so in my daily walk to work, I began to recite, “I choose to live in a beautiful state” over and again with conviction, feeling the words. By the time I got to work, I had put myself in an unbeatable state where no matter what happened in my day, I would choose to live my mantra.

I’d encounter rudeness, lethargy and bureaucracy, but it didn’t matter because I was the master of my internal domain.

2.1.4 Opposition Thinking

In every life, there will be no shortage of obstacles. The most successful people hack down these barriers, break them apart and use them as fuel for the fire of a blazing life.

I’ve started to experiment with an incredibly effective practice: I use negative thoughts and emotions as fuel—cues (reminders) to generate positive ones. I recently learned that this is called opposition thinking.

As crazy as it seems, I now welcome these previously dreaded visitors because they are opportunities to experience joy. The more I practice, the more automatic this process becomes.

Can you imagine the power you would have if you could turn your weaknesses into strengths? Imagine that every time your mind tells you, “I can’t,” you replace this with “I’m more than capable of doing this.”

The obstacle is the way.

2.2 Habits for Your Outer World

“Greatness is a lot of small things done well.” – Ray Lewis

Once you’ve put your mind and heart in order, you’ll start to see massive results from habits that expand and grow your external world: your body, work, business, relationships and finances.

Here is a compilation of the most powerful tools and strategies that I’ve personally tested and can endorse. Couple these actions with a strong, positive mental state and you’ll build the most beautiful life you can imagine.

2.2.1 The Planning Habit

“Give me six hours to chop down a tree and I will spend the first four sharpening the axe.” —Abraham Lincoln

Small acts repeated consistently are one of the most powerful forces in the world. It’s by this method that humans eradicated smallpox, built the Great Wall and forced the British out of India.

Repetition is also the same mechanism that leads to obesity, alcoholism and depression. It’s not enough to practice habits—know why you’re engaging in them. Before you embark on the habit journey, it’s important to fix your destination with a plan.

1. Yearly Planning

In the past, I’d use January 1st to recover from the night before, but now I’m using it as the greatest gift: a day of no obligations or interruptions to decide what I want to get out of my year. In fact, I block off three full days to sharpen my axe. My yearly plan breaks down into five parts.

  1. Review the previous year.
    1. What were my goals? Did I achieve them or make progress toward them?
    2. What went well? What could I have improved?
    3. How do I feel about the previous year? (Feelings are your internal compass.)
    4. Celebrate my accomplishments by listing each and every one.
  2. Take care of some housekeeping.
    1. Change all of my passwords.
    2. Check my credit score.
    3. Read and review all Evernotes from the year.
    4. Unsubscribe from “blah” emails and negative Facebook friends.
  3. Decide what I want to accomplish this year.
    1. Set specific goals. Select my first quarter goals and action items and decide how many hours per week I’ll spend on each.
    2. Choose the habits I want to adopt or double down on.
    3. Learn one new skill. This year I’m teaching myself to speak Spanish, handy when living in Mexico for six months.
    4. Print my yearly and quarterly goals and tape them to the wall where I see them every day.
2. Quarterly Planning

The quarterly plan is a short version of the yearly plan, which I dive into on the 1st of every April, July and October. I ask myself most of the same questions as above, but my timelines are three months instead of a year. I print out and post this new plan so I see it daily.

3. Weekly Planning

Every Sunday night after dinner, I sit down to do two things:

  1. I review last week’s plan and ask: 1) What went well? 2) What could be improved? and 3) How do I feel about the past week?
  2. I set my goals for the week, guesstimate how much time each will take, and schedule these tasks in my calendar. (Specific is good!) It’s important to leave unscheduled time for surprises.

In the spirit of the yearly and quarterly plans, the purpose of this exercise is to decide exactly what I want to accomplish and create a plan to help me install the habits to get to my goals. You can’t hit a target you can’t see.

4. Daily Planning

In years past, I’d drill down even further by starting my day with a list of intentions and action items, and then compiling a list of accomplishment as I went. At the beginning of my habits journey, this was helpful, but now I can simply refer to my weekly plan at the beginning of each day to fix my bearings.

2.2.2 The Physical Habit

The body is a complex machine, but instructions are freely available for creating one that serves you well as a vehicle to carry you through life. Basically: Eat well and exercise.

If you fail to make time for this now, you’ll be forced later to spend a lot of time putting out a big fire. Or die 20 years too early.

Move your body as soon as you wake up. Cortisol is the body’s main stress hormone and its function is to wake us up and give us energy. (Thanks, cortisol!) It’s also what’s used in our flight/fight/freeze responses. It’s what makes us fearful and as stressed as a piano string. (You’re off my friends list, cortisol.)

Cortisol is highest in the morning and while it serves a useful purpose, an overabundance leads to anxiety and depression and blocks your genius, preventing you from doing your greatest work.

Even light exercise can drastically reduce cortisol levels and clear your mind for a focused, productive day. Tim Ferriss often starts his with only five to 10 reps of push-ups, for example.

“Getting into my body, even for 30 seconds, has a dramatic effect on my mood and quiets mental chatter.”

If you’re up for more excitement, in The 5 AM Club, Robin Sharma suggests 20 minutes of exercise strenuous enough to make you sweat, in order to lower cortisol and to release brain-derived neurotrophic factor (which increases intelligence, mood, productivity and memory), dopamine (which increases your drive), and serotonin (which generates happiness).

I’ve become hyperaware of the importance of even minimal exercise first thing in the morning—on days where I do some, my mood is two to 10 times better than on days that I skip it.

2.2.3 The Learning Habit

“A person who won’t read has no advantage over one who can’t read.” – Anonymous

1. Reading

Bill Gates reads 50 books per year. Elon Musk would read for 10 hours a day growing up. Almost every top performer interviewed by Tim Ferriss in Tools of Titans is a voracious reader. This is not a coincidence!

Great people don’t start to read when they become successful, their wealth delivering all this new leisure time. Their greatness came about because of their habit of learning through books.

Yet 24% of American adults interviewed said they haven’t read a book in the last 12 months. What’s the difference between knowing how to read and choosing not to, and being illiterate? Nothing.

Reading can fit into any schedule. Last year I listened to audiobooks on my 45-minute commute and cuddled a book for 20 minutes before sleep—that’s it. I finished 25 books last year, and so can you. Head to Goodreads now and sign up for their reading challenge.

2. Listening

All your fancy book learnin’, online articles, info-packed YouTube videos and attendance at seminars will be for nothing unless you’re able to hear what’s being said. How often do you run into someone who knows everything but fails to apply it? Or who knows everything but is completely wrong about all of it?

You may hear them say, “I can’t lose weight, it’s my genetics,” or, “the best way to save is to put 10% of your paycheck away every month,” but who you know spends every penny? I once had a cab driver in Las Vegas explain to me, in painstaking detail, how easy it was to beat the casinos and make millions. I didn’t feel the need to point out to him that he was still driving a taxi.

My business started to take off when I learned that, to have a hope of successfully marketing in our noisy world, I needed to first listen to my customers. Success comes from building the products they want, not starting with a product, then “getting the word out.”

Listen first, then you’ll know what to do.

2.2.4 Habits to Refresh Yourself

And now, a cautionary tale. Sometimes I’m a slow learner. For many years, my main goal was to improve my efficiency, like tuning up a machine, in order to squeeze out more tasty productivity juices. I studied tools and methods that would allow me to cram more into my day. I pushed myself hard and indeed expanded my willpower.

Here’s what generally happened: On a Monday, I would wake up early and throw myself into my work. I’d take a short lunch break only when I’d felt I’d earned it and would continue hammering away right up to dinnertime. Then after “relaxing” with some horrible TV, I’d never truly end my workday. I would drift in and out of tasks, answering one more email, reading one more article, not entirely present to any task and not relaxing. I never gave my mind a break.

I would push like this for weeks before the inevitable crash, my mind and body rebelling. I’d decide to sleep in for a few extra hours, or have a procrasti-nap, or start gaming around 2 p.m. and only be aware of what I was doing six hours later. I’d get a cold and then need to take a few days to recover (which I secretly loved, because at the time it was the only legitimate excuse I had to power down).

What I didn’t realize was that habits are meant to be used in moderation, and not abused, like an engine running at the red line for too long.

You can find out how counterproductive nonstop activity is when you drive and refuse to stop for gas. Here are some habits to keep you running at peak efficiency.

1. Get out of the Burn Box.

One simple diagram from Neil Pasricha’s book, The Happiness Equation, cured me of the busyness affliction:

He explained that we can operate in four basic states that include a mix of high/low “thinking” and high/low “doing.”

The most wonderful and terrible place is the Burn Box, which is characterized by both high thinking and doing. This is the state of being most prized in our dysfunctional society where we wear hyperactivity as a badge of courage, and idleness is a mortal sin.

The people who buy into this “do more” hype will end their lives thoroughly disappointed that they neglected their family and friends, not to mention that small but powerful inner voice telling them that they never actually wanted to climb the corporate ladder. Tim Kreider’s essay Lazy: A Manifesto sublimely captures this malady and I’m jealous that I didn’t write it.

Those who spend too much time in the Burn Box end up predictably in burnout. Until I saw this diagram, I was burning myself out once a quarter, only to enter the arena again, guns blazing, when I could finally stand again.

Neil showed me how the most successful people easily and frequently move between all of the boxes. Now, I visit the Do Box by taking a three-day solo-hiking trip into the woods. And I cherish my time in the Space Box by signing up for a week at an all-inclusive resort with no agenda except rum punches and a great literature.

How do you know when it’s time to leave your box? Listen to your body and mind, and with practice the signs will become clearer.

2. Take vacations, often.

You can’t afford not to take long vacations. This time out of the Burn Box will serve to sharpen your most valuable tools: your mind and your spirit. Scientists told me so.

Leisure is a predictor of well-being and satisfaction with life, including your health, work enjoyment, creativity and even marital satisfaction.

Studies show that people who take more vacation get more raises and promotions.

Oh, you only get two weeks of vacation per year? Negotiate four, six or eight! Demand it! You get in life what you have the courage to ask for.

Let’s smash the myth that vacations hurt productivity—the opposite is true. Nine of 10 of the most productive countries are in Europe, where four weeks of paid vacation is the minimum across the board. In some places, six, eight or 12 weeks of vacation is not unusual. The United States has the lowest number of paid vacations out of these 10 countries and ranks 6th in productivity (sad face).

You have my permission to share this article with your boss. Ask for a raise while you’re in her office, too.

Can’t afford to take vacation? Save only $50 per week and you will have $2,600 to spend. That can buy many tanks of gas, and nights at a quiet Airbnb at the ocean or in the mountains.

No excuses: Decide that you will carve out this precious time. You deserve it.

3. Take frequent breaks for peak performance.

How often do you get stuck on a problem? For me, daily. When this happens: STOP! If you attempt to power through it, you’ll increase your frustration and obliterate your enthusiasm for the task.

When facing “stuckness,” your prefrontal cortex is overexerted. That’s the part of your brain responsible for concentration, logical thinking and willpower. A break here does NOT mean switching to another diabolically daunting piece of drudgery. Good options are:

Oh, and breaks that involve movement reduce your risk for heart disease, diabetes, depression and obesity. Shake a leg.

My favorite methods for automating breaks:

2.2.5 The Anti-Habits Habit: The Unschedule

“Those who work much do not work hard.” – Henry David Thoreau

What if I told you that for the next 40 years you could work on difficult projects without seeing your family or friends, enjoy no physical activity or play, and no relaxation time? Would you be excited about life? (Kill me now.)

For sane people, the answer is no, but those same people do a decidedly non-sane thing by packing their daily and weekly schedules full of these difficult, joyless tasks, without making time for recreation. They do exactly the above without realizing it!

Neil Fiore, in his research on what makes for uncommon productivity, found that the best way to beat procrastination is to turn your schedule on its head by first scheduling your fun tasks: exercise, socializing, play, downtime. Huh? Yes, it works! I do not skip my afternoon swim.

By focusing on creating space through this “unschedule,” a powerful force takes effect: You guarantee to yourself that life won’t be a drag and will unlock a new enthusiasm for your work. Plus, by seeing how much of your daily dance card is already allocated to other partners, you see how precious each work block truly is, and each becomes more productive.

Use this anti-habit to increase the effectiveness of the rest of your habits.

2.2.6 Don’t Forget to “Cycle Off” Habits

For the last six weeks, you’ve been rising early, getting to the gym, eating well and sticking to your work schedule. Pat yourself on the back. But you’ve also got the sneaking suspicion that you’re caught in a temporal loop, maybe by some errant black hole crossing the solar system, and you’re losing your motivation. Each hour invested feels a little more “sucky.”

At this stage, it’s time to surprise yourself—it’s time to cycle off habits! Bodybuilders do this with supplements because too much of a good thing leads to ‘roid rage.

This doesn’t necessarily mean a vacation. You don’t need to stop working; it only means that this might be a good opportunity to put your “doing lists” in a drawer for an afternoon or a week.

Instead of planning your weeks and sticking to a regimen, let your heart guide your activity for a while. Don’t feel like exercising today? Don’t. Feel like trying that new coffee shop you’ve passed a million times? Get in there and flirt with the barista.

We are not robots, not computers. Humans need variety and new inputs to thrive.

2.2.7 The Big Block of Cheese Day

My favorite episodes of The West Wing sees the characters griping about an annual day in which the White House staff is forced to take meetings with groups that normally wouldn’t get the time of day.

Apparently this real-life tradition started with President Andrew Jackson when, in order to get rid of a stinky, 2-ton block of cheese gifted to the White House by a prankster farmer, he opened its doors to the public for audiences with one and all. (“I hear what you’re saying. By the way have you tried the fromage?”)

You can clear the proverbial cheese stink from your own life by taking a day here and there (I recommend one day a month) to give attention to the interests and activities that don’t normally warrant your attention.

Maybe you’ve been meaning to fix the dang garage door for six months. Maybe you’ve been talking about getting your EU citizenship so you can live in Poland for a year.

I got married four months ago and still haven’t shared a single wedding photo with family and friends, so you can imagine what I might be doing on my next big block of cheese day. (Update: It’s done. Cheese for the win!)

It’s such a relief to finally attend to the things that have been languishing on your list and mind for eons. Toss your habits once in a while, you ole stickler.

2.2.8 Habits of Reflection

“Plato says that the unexamined life is not worth living. But what if the examined life turns out to be a clunker as well?” – Kurt Vonnegut

“I can’t believe April is over, didn’t I just get punked on April Fools’?”
“I’m working like a dog but no farther ahead in my career than I was a year ago.”
“Time to renew my driver’s license already?!?”

We chant these refrains when we neglect to reflect on all that we’re doing. We don’t feel like we have a full life when we’re constantly rushing from one task/day/month to the next. Mouse, meet wheel.

This is why I make reflection the first part of my planning habits (see above), but here are some additional highly effective reflection habits.

1. Journaling

Writing is the most generous practice that I know. Five minutes can generate worlds of progress in your life. In the process of moving thoughts from our brain to the page, we force ourselves to take stock of the activities and moments that make up our lives.

Blindly charging from one moment to the next without a pause will have you waking up one day in hospice with teary-eyed family at your bedside, and you wondering, Why didn’t I stop to ponder once in a while?

2. Morning Pages

In 2015, I read the brilliant The Artist’s Way by Julia Cameron and learned how millions of people have benefited from her Morning Pages practice.

I then spent two years, five mornings a week, journaling three pages a day for 30 minutes with pen and paper. I wrote about my experience and its benefits, but here’s the short version: Writing each morning clears your mind of heavy thoughts and spikes your creativity. It helps you process challenges and generate solutions. And it has proven benefits for your mood, immune system and bank account.

3. The Five Minute Journal and Other Variations

If you just can’t find 30 minutes each day to write, then you can surely find five. Tim Ferriss uses The Five Minute Journal (5MJ), which asks you to write answers to five simple prompts.

In the morning:

  1. What am I grateful for?
  2. What would make today great?
  3. Affirmations: I am… (fill in the blanks: a money magnet, a stud with the ladies).

And in the evening:

  1. List three amazing things that happened today.
  2. List three things that would have made today better.

Hmm, who else had a practice like this? Oh right—hundreds of history’s most notable icons, including Marcus Aurelius, Marie Curie and Thomas Edison.

On instinct, I’ve recently returned to my morning pages, but I’ve also started using a type of 5MJ, The Daily Stoic Journal, where each day is a unique prompt to reflect on Stoic themes—which, by the way, is a philosophy that is primarily concerned with practical ways to live your best life. (Not unlike this article, wink, wink.)

2.2.9 Bonus Section: Money Habits

“Whatever may be said in praise of poverty, the fact remains that it is not possible to live a really complete or successful life unless one is rich.” –Wallace Wattles

Oh no he didn’t… did Wattles just say that?!

Jen Sincero brought this little gem to my attention, and, like me, she struggled for a while to understand how it wasn’t utter nonsense.

It seems like an offensive sentiment, particularly in the face of widely accepted money greatest hits like, “money can’t buy happiness” and “rich people suck.”

But let’s take the scalpel to this quote and cut away the fat of our loaded beliefs, and just deal with the meat of the statement.

Can you be blissfully happy without a penny? Sure. There are plenty of yogis on the Ganges proving it’s possible. Are they living up to their highest potential of what they could share with the world? I’d say, certainly not, and for them that’s perfectly enough—no judgment.

However, I’m betting that if you’re reading SUCCESS magazine, you’re in search of a life lived closer to the sun. I’m not talking about buying a cool car or parading around your Instagrammable vacations—if these are your goals, you may want to evolve, man.

All I’m arguing is that it’s fair to say that the person who has their financial needs met will be able to avoid the anxiety that comes with being unable to pay bills. And the man or woman living beyond financial security and into abundance? Well that person will by definition be able to give more to the world and invest more time and money in her mental, physical and spiritual growth.

I am by no means a money expert and I have only begun to work methodically to bring abundance into my life, but here are a few simple habits you can put into effect now that will provide massive dividends (figuratively and literally).

1. Crush your debt with the 70-20-10 rule.

Implementing systems (aka habits) are mandatory if you want to grow your money.

In The Richest Man in Babylon, I learned about the simple 70-20-10 formula that I used to completely repay my $12,000 line of credit in one year. (Side note: would not recommend building a business with a line of credit. Ouch.) It’s simple, but it works.

2. Pay yourself first.

Fun fact: The phrase “pay yourself first” is often attributed to “Rich Dad” Robert Kiyosaki but actually comes from The Richest Man in Babylon.

Get into the habit of seeing yourself as your most important bill. Phone, car, electric and gas bill all due this week? That’s fine, as long as you are putting 10% of your income into savings FIRST.

Does that seem irresponsible to you? “I always pay my bills on time!” you protest. Yes, and that mentality is part of why the vast majority of us are living pay check to pay check. If you want to make an omelette, you’ve gotta have a nest egg.

It’s only by paying yourself first that you can build a critical mass of cash that you can then use to begin investing in assets like a roller rink or some index funds that will throw off the wealth you need to live the life you want.

I have my bank account set up to transfer a fixed amount every two weeks to my investment account, even though my income fluctuates monthly. I see paying myself first like just another monthly expense—only this one is the most important.

Don’t have an investment account? I use Questrade because it’s super easy and the fees are negligible. I can’t believe I was so afraid to get started. Start now.

3. Asset allocation.

Get in the habit of diversifying your investments, automatically. Asset allocation is a fancy term for dividing up your investments in different places.

Mine is simple, and I copied it from Ray Dalio, founder of one of the largest hedge funds. Last I checked, he’s entrusted with managing $160 billion of other people’s money. Here is Ray’s suggested allocation for the average person:

So simple. You can learn more about this strategy from Tony Robbins’ epic, Money: Master the Game, but if the world’s 79th richest person endorses it, I’ll bite.

4. Review your expenses monthly and set a budget.

This habit is less important than paying yourself first and automating your investments in your chosen allocation, but I find it helpful for understanding my spending patterns and learning where I can tweak them.

In practice, this means sitting down at a spreadsheet on the 1st of each month to ask: Where did I overspend? Where did I underspend? Is this a structural problem or a one-time, worthwhile expense? Where can I cut?

It forces you to bring your often-unconscious money habits into the light for a hard evaluation.

For example, last year I saw my monthly coffee shop habit had burgeoned to $200 a month, which was idiotic on my salary. By seeing this, I decided to start bringing coffee from home. Monitoring my cash flow was also how I convinced my wife that we’re not really spending that much on Uber after all, so let’s just please not take the bus home after a night out?

You’re not so handy with a spreadsheet? That’s alright—there’s a website, Mint.com, that will link to your bank accounts and tell you exactly what’s going on with your dollar bills.

Part III: How to Install Habits

“Knowledge is not power…it’s potential power. Execution will trump knowledge any day.” –Tony Robbins

In Part II, I shared the most powerful habits I know to create the life you want. But you will not be able to adopt these overnight, I assure you.

I’ve been learning, practicing and testing hundreds of habits and techniques in a methodical, intentional way for 15 years.

Your journey will be one of thousands of small steps, repeated daily, refined and constantly improved. The Apollo rocket that took the first astronauts to the moon was off course for something like 97% of the time. Constant adjustment and forward motion got them there and back.

At the start, it will feel like nothing is changing, and that’s normal. The beginning is always the hardest part of any undertaking. The only risk you face at this point is becoming discouraged and quitting. Wanting to quit is common, an urge that you have to put out of your mind if you want to see results. Those will appear before too long if you are determined and consistent, I guarantee it.

3.1 How to Start

Choose only one habit from this list and decide to practice it for 66 days in a row—this is the average length of time it takes to permanently lock in a habit. (You can give yourself the weekends off if you want. I’ve developed many habits this way… but extend your timelines accordingly.)

Give a great deal of thought to the reason you want to change. Ask your heart. If you want to develop more calm in your life, pick meditation. If you’d like to improve your self-image, come up with a suitable mantra and repeat it 100 times a day. Or if you’d like to stop feeling lethargic when you wake up every morning, drop and do 20 push-ups as soon as you leave bed.

Laser-like focus is required. It’s important not to bite off too many new habits at once, especially if they are radical for you. Overwhelm can threaten your progress on all fronts.

The rate at which you can install new habits will vary depending on your experience, willpower and your reasons for practicing. To give you an arbitrary schedule, you might try practicing just one new habit each month, stacking them on top of one another. If you find that this is too much of a challenge, drop down to one new habit every two months. Or if you’re finding this too easy, try starting one new habit per week.

I promise that some habits you’ll love and take to easily. Others will feel like drudgery from Day One and you’ll ghost on them; this is fine. Tony Robbins swears by his priming routine, but I tried it for a few months and found no benefit, so I purged it from my routine. Take what works and leave the rest.

Other habits you will use for a time and then outgrow them. For months, I would walk my neighborhood for an hour before sunrise, thinking, practicing mantras and listening to audiobooks. It served me well for a while until it didn’t anymore. Use your judgment.

3.2 My Template for an Exceptional Life

I’d like to show you one version of what it looks like to put all of this information together, but I’ll stress again that each person is unique. You will want to test and retest various habits and develop a template that works for you. Here’s a snapshot of my life right now, and I’ve never been happier!

3.3 Final Words

“We are a way for the cosmos to know itself.” –Carl Sagan

A robot will always beat you at habits. They don’t get tired, or bored, and they don’t need a reason or willpower to act.

You are not a robot, and this is your greatest strength. Humans have (as far as we know) an unparalleled capacity in the universe for adventure, bravery, curiosity, joy, love, humor, subtlety, art, cuisine, satisfaction, self-improvement, geocaching, literature, extreme sports, Pokémon and daydreaming.

Let this massive competitive advantage of our species inform your priorities. Let your driving force be a desire to experience the fullest life imaginable. If there is a higher power experiencing the cosmos through us, it really wants us to have a fantastic time in these bodies.

Habits are not the dry, lifeless fossils they’re made out to be by an impatient, short attention span, get-rich-quick, life hack world. In the same way that what we eat literally creates our bodies, what we do each day, in each moment, creates our lives.

Choose negative habits and they will lead you to dark places; follow the positive path and you will begin to walk among the heights of joy, abundance and achievement. (From experience, I am not exaggerating). Still, never forget the cardinal rule of habits:

The Cardinal Rule of Habits: Habits must serve you, not the other way around.

Practice habits, but do not stack them brick on brick, so tight that the light of spontaneity and wonder can’t reach you. Make space for space; leave some blank holes in your calendar.

Buddhists teach of the middle way, a road between two extremes, which can be practiced in any pursuit. The Tao, essentially, teaches this same ideal. Put another way,

You’ve got to know when to hold ’em.
Know when to fold ’em.
Know when to walk away.
And know when to run.

Thanks, Kenny Rogers.

In habits, follow the middle way: Use them to work efficiently, grow and achieve. But know when to temporarily set aside these toys to enjoy those human experiences that have nothing to do with success and accomplishment.

I’ve given you the best of my best tools and tactics gained from 15 years of studying the greatest achievers and applying their wisdom, and experimenting with hundreds of methods. I’ve shown you what’s possible, stocked your toolkit and shared a template that works for me.

Now it’s time for practice. Start by making your bed.

BBQ Shrimp with Garlicky Kale & Parmesan-Herb Couscous

In the U.S., dry whole-wheat couscous has been partially cooked, making it a quick-cooking (5 minutes!) whole-grain weeknight dinner champ. And when you buy peeled shrimp, plus a bag of prechopped kale and bottled barbecue sauce, the savings in prep time helps to get this healthy dinner done in a jiff.

Ingredients

Preparation

  1. Combine broth and poultry seasoning in a medium saucepan over medium-high heat. Bring to a boil. Stir in couscous. Remove from heat, cover and let stand for 5 minutes. Fluff with a fork, then stir in Parmesan and butter. Cover to keep warm.
  2. Meanwhile, heat 1 tablespoon oil in large skillet over medium-high heat. Add kale and cook, stirring, until bright green, 1 to 2 minutes. Add water, cover and cook, stirring occasionally, until the kale is tender, about 3 minutes. Reduce heat to medium-low. Make a well in the center of the kale and add 1 tablespoon oil, garlic and crushed red pepper; cook, undisturbed, for 15 seconds, then stir the garlic oil into the kale and season with salt. Transfer to a bowl and cover to keep warm.
  3. Add the remaining 1 tablespoon oil and shrimp to the pan. Cook, stirring, until the shrimp are pink and curled, about 2 minutes. Remove from heat and stir in barbecue sauce. Serve the shrimp with the kale and couscous.
  • Tip: The barbecue sauce aisle has expanded to include any flavor you can imagine—like sweet mustard and even Dr. Pepper—but a classic or “original” variety pairs best with the Parmesan couscous. Look for one that doesn’t list an added sweetener as the first ingredient.

Remember when Jackie Kennedy wore her famous pillbox hat?

Remember when Jackie Kennedy attended her husband’s presidential inauguration with a perfect egg-shaped pillbox hat perched atop her head?
That’s because it was meant to be unmissable.
Everything that happened on January 20, 1961 was stage-managed to tell America that a new age was dawning. John F. Kennedy was set to become the first US leader born in the 20th century, the first Catholic commander-in-chief and the first president whose inaugural speech was beamed across crackly television screens in color.
President Kennedy with First Lady Jackie at his inauguration.

Not everything worked out as planned. Eight inches of snow fell on Washington DC overnight, winds lashed and, among all this, one accident would end up infiltrating American wardrobes.
Jackie’s orb-like hat had been made to match a coat and fawn dress already created for her by her personal courtier Oleg Cassini. But it was also designed to look different: A cloth pillbox was exactly what everyone else would not be wearing.
In the freezing cold, many of the women sported stolid mink caps — except Jackie, who stood out as the beacon of a new generation, characterized by clean lines and elegance. She appeared on the steps of the Capitol like “the gorgeous petal in a dowdy bouquet of fur,” according to Thurston Clarke, author of “Ask Not,” a book about the 1961 inauguration.
Jackie’s distinctive headpiece was designed by Halston (real name Roy Halston Frowick). Later known as the creator of the free-flowing, slinky fashion of the 1970s disco era, Halston was then an up-and-coming New York milliner. He apparently spent hours sandwiched between two mirrors, shaping Jackie’s hat into a perfect, simple dome.
Except, of course, it didn’t end up like that.
That morning, as she reached up to clasp the hat in high winds, Kennedy accidentally gave it a dimple — a shallow indent, unnoticed but broadcast around the world. America swooned nonetheless. Kennedy’s deification as the ultimate first lady of fashion had begun with a misshapen hat, its influence stretching to imitators from high society to the rural Midwest. Halston later laughed that “everybody who copied it put a dent in it.”
Jackie’s ensemble that day — which she completed with a sable circlet and muff — has become one of the most celebrated of presidential inauguration looks. But there’s one thing we may have all been getting wrong: the color.
While most Americans will remember the first lady in duck-egg blue, complementing JFK’s steel blue waistcoat and tie, color film footage from“Halston,” a new CNN Films documentary about the legendary designer, shows her inauguration outfit appearing pinkish. And researchers at the John F. Kennedy Presidential Library and Museum, where the outfit is stored, told CNN that the dress and hat were basically colorless — a neutral, fawnish beige and not even slightly blue.
The origin of the mistake seems to be a color photograph from Life Magazine. But the cover of the same issue featured a very different photograph: Jackie in far less vivid tones, closer to the off-white captured by the handful of other press photographers present (early color film often struggled to match real hues).
So when, in 2017, Melania Trump wore a powder blue Ralph Lauren inauguration suit likened to Kennedy’s, was it a tribute to an outfit that never existed?
was Melania Trump paying tribute to a dress that wasn't really blue?

Regardless of color, dimpled or not, the pillbox hat would become synonymous with Jackie’s style as first lady. She wore one the day JFK was shot, twinned with a raspberry pink suit. The blood-covered suit is locked away in the National Archives, with instructions that it should hidden from public view until at least 2103. The pink hat hasn’t been seen since the fateful day she last wore it.
But the eulogizing of the first lady’s “looks” risks relegating her to the role of a mere mannequin, when she in fact directed much of the new administration’s aesthetic — and not just when it came to fashion.
She may have spent fewer than three years in the White House, but during that time she brought in designers, including Stéphane Boudin, to modernize its interior. She also worked with legendary industrial designer Raymond Loewy, the man behind the Lucky Strike cigarette packet and classic Studebaker cars, to choose the enduring powder blue of the US presidential plane, Air Force One.
JFK’s inauguration marked the beginning of a new era of media-savvy presidents — and he had his wife to thank for much of it.

https://edition.cnn.com/style/article/jackie-kennedy-inauguration-pillbox-hat-remember-when/index.html

Scallion-Ginger Beef & Broccoli

Whip up a chef-quality stir-fry recipe at home.

This beef and broccoli stir-fry packs in more vegetables and nearly halves the calories of what you would find in a restaurant. And this healthy dinner takes just 30 minutes to prep, so it’s about as quick as takeout too.

Ginger, which adds a lively kick to this stir-fry, has long been touted for its power to settle stomachs. But that’s not its only superpower: preliminary research suggests it may improve blood sugar and inflammation too.

Ingredients

Preparation

  1. Whisk tamari (or soy sauce), broth, brown sugar and 1 tablespoon cornstarch in a small bowl. Toss steak with the remaining 1 tablespoon cornstarch.
  2. Heat 2 tablespoons oil in a large flat-bottom wok or cast-iron skillet over medium-high heat. Add the steak and cook, stirring once, until browned, about 4 minutes. Transfer to a clean plate. Add the remaining 1 tablespoon oil and broccoli; cook, stirring occasionally, until slightly tender, about 2 minutes. Stir in scallions, ginger and garlic; cook, stirring, until fragrant, about 30 seconds. Whisk the tamari mixture and add it, along with the beef, back to the pan; cook until the sauce thickens, about 1 minute. Serve over brown rice and garnish with crushed red pepper, if desired.

How to get kids to eat healthy

Ask any parent about the top challenges of raising kids, and getting them to eat healthy would probably be high on the list. Countless parents have kids who just want to eat chicken nuggets, or pasta, or macaroni and cheese, or all of the above, and definitely without any vegetables.

It’s a problem throughout the year, but at back-to-school time, it gets maybe a tad more stressful, as parents are looking to start over or at least give their kids lunches that pack a healthy punch and won’t get traded away for Oreos or some other sugary snack.
So what’s a parent to do? First, don’t stress — we reached out to parents across the country, including a few experts on healthy eating for kids, and they had a ton of great advice. We’ve boiled down their insights into 11 great tips that are sure to make healthy eating in your household a little less complicated, beginning with what not to do:
1. Do nots? There are many
Don’t let your kids get hooked on sugar, says Agatha Achindu, a mother of three who founded Yummy Spoonfuls Organic Baby Food in 2006. “Sugar is in just about all packaged food these days, in one form or another,” said Achindu, who grew up on a farm in Cameroon, West Africa. Banish soda and other sugary drinks from the household, read the labels and don’t buy anything with added sugar, she says.
You might not be able to control everything your child eats, especially when your kids are not at home, but you can give them a good healthy foundation. She suggests not bringing junk food into the house: “If it’s not there, they won’t eat it.” Don’t plead or threaten or bribe your child to eat healthy food, she says, because those tactics are not effective. And don’t judge your child’s tastes by your own. “You may not like broccoli, but your child is not you. He/she may love foods that you don’t care for,” Achindu said.
2. Make food interesting
Lori Day, an educational psychologist and consultant, says her mom always told her that she was a terrible eater and that it would be karma if her daughter also didn’t like to eat well. But that’s not what happened. When her now-grown daughter was young, Day thought that if she found food interesting, she’d be more likely to try it. So Day let her daughter shell peas, count them, sort them by size and play with them before putting them in the pot. She loved eating them raw or cooked, Day said.
Same with mussels marinara, which became one of her daughter’s favorite foods. She enjoyed inspecting the mussels and looking for the potentially dead ones to throw away, learning about their biology and pulling the cooked shells all the way apart and picking out the meat.
“My main tip is to make food interesting if your child is naturally curious, enjoys science/nature and is willing to engage,” Day said.
3. Get the kids involved
Several parents talked about how bringing their children with them to the farmers market or the grocery store and having them help with the cooking can get them more excited and invested in what they are eating. “Kids can be inspired to eat healthy when they are part of the meal and snack planning process,” said Margaret McSweeney, host of the podcast Kitchen Chat, on which she has interviewed about 200 chefs, cookbook authors and food industry experts. “A trip to the local farmers market or produce aisle can be an adventure and connect them with the source of food.”
Monica Sakala, a mother of two who runs the social media consulting business SOMA Strategies, said she continues to be amazed by the power that growing their own vegetables has had on encouraging healthy eating in her kids. This is their third summer with a vegetable garden.
“They delight in going out back, getting dirty and picking the veggies. I watch them eat them raw,” she said. “They seem to delight in what they’ve grown, and there’s never a battle.”
4. Give kids choices
Ava Parnass, an infant-child psychotherapist and author of “Hungry Feelings Not Hungry Tummy,” said that from a young age, parents should let their kids choose foods, fruits, vegetables and snacks they like, within reason.
“Give them more room to choose as they get older,” she added. And never get into a power struggle with your kids about eating, food or even healthy food, she said. “Make sure you are not overcontrolling, overeducating or over-lecturing them, or they will rebel in the food arena.”
5. Get creative
Rachel Matos, a social media marketing strategist, says her teenage son would live on chicken wings and Pop-Tarts if she let him. He has always been picky about eating his greens but loves his juices, she said. “Instead of arguing every night at dinner, I got a juicer … and started making him natural fruit juices and smoothies but gradually started adding in kale, spinach and other greens.”
He noticed the change in color but continued to enjoy the taste, so as time went on, she added more and more greens. Now, he can drink a kale or spinach drink with no issue. “The juices helped him develop taste for veggies. He also notices how much better he feels when he drinks them consistently,” she said.
McSweeney, the podcast host, has another idea, this one for younger kids: Present healthy food in a creative way, such as hosting a purple night. “Everyone dresses in purple for a purple meal. Menu items could include purple peppers, purple cauliflower, purple potatoes, grapes and/or eggplant,” she said. “Savor the day!”
6. Model healthy eating
Our kids watch everything we do, so it should be no surprise that they can be influenced to make better choices if they watch us doing the same. Pam Moore says her kids, ages 3 and 5, always see her and husband eating healthy. “Both my husband and I typically add greens to our eggs (spinach, kale, Swiss chard, whatever is around) at breakfast. I always add greens to my smoothies. I often keep sliced veggies (bell peppers, carrots, cucumbers) washed, sliced and ready to eat for snacks,” said Moore, founder of the blog Whatevs.
Added Parnass, the author and psychotherapist, “Our children will ask for bites as time goes on, as they like to copy what we do, not what we say.”
7. Forget about making your kids clear their plates
Cherylyn Harley LeBon, a lawyer, strategist and mother of two, says that as a child who was the last person sitting at her table many nights, she is not a fan of making kids stay at the table until they are finished with their meal. “If they do not want to finish their vegetables or meal, they are welcome to leave the table, but there is nothing else to eat,” she said.
Moore, of the Whatevs blog, said she and her husband never force their kids to eat anything and are not in a habit of fixing them a separate dinner. “If they refuse to eat the meal, we tell them that’s OK, but that’s all there is, and they can eat again at breakfast,” she said. “If they want a second helping of, say, steak, and they have not finished whatever veggies are on their plate, we tell them they have to finish what’s there before they can have more of something else.”
8. Words matter
John Furjanic, a single father of one, said his daughter is the second-smallest child in her elementary school class — she’s about to begin fifth grade — and is acutely aware of the size difference between her and her classmates. Recently, she surprised Furjanic by repeating one of his mantras, which is “Protein builds muscles.”
“I flex my muscles when I say it, and she rolls her eyes, but apparently she has been listening,” said Furjanic, who works as a financial adviser. “I’m ecstatic that she is asking me to make chicken, steak and eggs.”
9. Get colorful
Kathy Beymer, founder of the craft site Merriment Design, said that her mom taught her when she was growing up that she should eat a bunch of colors on her plate, so she has passed that on to her kids. “We talk about food colors and how it’s healthiest to make meals that have a variety of colors, a little red, a little green, some orange, a bit of yellow,” said Beymer, a mom of two. “If everything on the plate is beige, then they know that’s not a healthy meal and that they need to add some brighter colors.”
10. Consider “litterless lunches”
Julie Cole, a mother of six and co-founder of the personalized labeling company Mabel’s Labels, says that packing “litterless lunches” will mean you are not sending in “pre-packaged snacks that are often loaded with salt or sugar.” It will encourage you to pack more fresh fruit and fresh veggies, she said. “Healthy snacks and good for the environment? Sign me up.”
11. Experiment
Jennifer Bosse, a mother of two boys ages 4 and 6, analyzed the family diet a few years ago and realized there were some “obvious tweaks” they could make to ensure healthier eating. She realized they were consuming a lot of bread at each meal, and pasta was on the weekly lunch and dinner rotation. So, she did some research and started trying new things.
Instead of pasta noodles for spaghetti, she switched to spaghetti squash. When she makes baked goods like muffins, she uses alternative flours like coconut and almond. Instead of oil, she uses unsweetened applesauce.
“I’ve made some dishes that my boys absolutely loved and others that weren’t as successful,” said Bosse, who has contributed to the Huffington Post, Scary Mommy and Mamalode. “It’s an ongoing process. … Some days, I hit a home run. Other days, I have to pull out the chicken nuggets. As with everything else in life, moderation is key.”

https://edition.cnn.com/2017/08/30/health/kids-healthy-eating-parent-tips/index.html

You’re running your meetings wrong. Here’s how to make them more effective

Meetings often get a bad rap. We have too many, they’re too long and they prevent us from being as productive as we could be.

“People don’t hate meetings, they hate meetings that waste their time,” said Ellen Faye, a productivity and leadership coach.
But sometimes meetings are necessary, and can be useful tools for getting things done, brainstorming new ideas and tackling problems at work.
You just have to do them right.

Keep the invite list exclusive

Only invite people to whom the subject matter of the meeting is relevant.
“People don’t often really think about who really needs to be at the meeting,” said Neal Hartman, a senior lecturer in managerial communication at the MIT Sloan School of Management. “Lots of people get invited and if the topic isn’t relevant to them, they feel like they have nothing to contribute and they are sitting there thinking of all the other things they could be doing.”
Limiting the size of the meeting can also spur better conversation, said Paul Axtell, author of “Meetings Matter: 8 Powerful Strategies for Remarkable Conversations”
“The quality of conversation is dependent on quality of the relationships that walk into the room. Fewer people are more likely to connect.”

Have a clear agenda

Make sure all attendees have a good sense of the subject and goals of the meeting before they walk into the room.
When you send the calendar invite with the time and location of the meeting, it helps to also include an agenda with the intended topics of discussion.
“It’s particularly useful to put a suggested timeline for each agenda item.” said Hartman.
Give people adequate time to review and digest any complex data or documents before the meeting to avoid putting anyone on the spot and to keep the meeting moving.
“If you are expecting your meeting to be effective and productive and you want to be able to make a decision, you need a certain degree of information and data,” said Faye.
And if you expect some participants to run part of the meeting, give them advanced notice and a time limit.

Get broad participation

Now that you’ve invited only the necessary players to your meeting, make sure you get input from everyone.
“If you have done a good job selecting the participants … it’s useful to hear from everybody to get a nice range of insights and perspectives,” said Hartman.
The meeting leader should make sure everyone feels comfortable contributing and rein in any conversation hogs who tend to dominate meetings.
There are different ways to encourage everyone to speak up. Some implement a rule that everyone needs to speak once, but no more than three times. Others will simply make sure to call on everyone in the room at some point.
“The people who are quiet have good information and if we skip them and don’t hear them we aren’t making the best decision for the team and aren’t getting the best outcome,” said Faye.

Limit your own talk time

While meeting hosts play an important role in the effectiveness of the meeting, they also have to be careful with how much they are talking.
One of the biggest problems that leads to unnecessarily long meetings is the leader talking too much and not asking questions or listening, according to Bob Sutton, an organizational psychologist and Stanford professor.
“You have leaders who talk to allegedly show off their knowledge, when asking questions helps make everyone feel engaged and recognized,” he said.

Have a call to action

Too often if you ask participants of the same meeting what was accomplished or discussed, you’ll get different answers.
To avoid that, the meeting leader should take a few minutes to review what was decided on, any deadlines and the next steps to move forward.
“If you don’t leave with specific commitments and timelines, then for the most part you didn’t accomplish anything,” said Axtell.”Most often the missing piece is not nailing down who is doing what and then not following up.”

Limit tech

Technology has made our lives much easier, but it can also be a major distraction in meetings.
“If you are texting or emailing during a meeting, you aren’t engaged,” said Faye. “There is no way your brain can be doing that and listening and following the conversation.”
Meeting leaders should set expectations and ground rules on what technology will be tolerated and they should practice what they preach.
Some companies have even banned technology in meetings or make people turn in their devices at the start of the meeting.

Avoid lip-service meetings

Managers can run the most well-run meetings, but if there is no execution afterward, it can cause friction with employees.
“Some leaders seem to believe that if they have meetings and are just listening to people and don’t follow up on the opinions or advice, that will make employees feel better,” said Sutton.
That’s not the case.
“People get really frustrated,” he said.

If it’s daily, keep it short and try standing

If a daily meeting is deemed necessary, keep it moving and keep it short — no more than 20 minutes.
“If it’s a daily meeting where you are reviewing actions … I would do a standup meeting where everyone is eye level and everyone moves on,” said Faye.

Track how much time you spend in meetings

Some job roles require multiple meetings a day, but Faye recommends aiming to have only two hours of meetings a day with four at the most.
“This gives you enough time to follow up, react and do other work,” she said.

https://edition.cnn.com/2019/08/01/success/effective-meeting-run/index.html