Beef in Arabic Style “1001 Nights”
- 1–2 lbs. (450 g–1 kg) beef fillet
- 1 cup beef stock
- 2 bay leaves
- 4 garlic cloves, crushed
- 2 tbsp of olive oil
- 2 cups of yogurt
- 2 cups of water
- 2 tsp. Arabic spice mix (black pepper, nutmeg, cardamom, cinnamon, dried ginger)
- 2 tbsp. corn-starch
- Salt and Pepper to taste
- Cut beef fillet into medium pieces. Heat olive oil in a cooking pot and add meat.
- Let it brown on each side for about 5 minutes. Add water to cover meat, also place bay leaves, stir and let it simmer for 30 minutes.
- Continue to add water to cover meat. Dissolve 2 tablespoons of corn-starch in a cold water to form a slurry. Add corn-starch slurry, yogurt, spices and garlic into the meat stew, stir continuously in one direction.
- This dish is best served with rice.
Most expensive shoes this season
For 2016, some of the top brands have unveiled groovy fashionable shoes that are sure to set the ramp and the roads on fire. Many labels have gone for “statement” shoes that can help you show off your style quotient and steal everyone’s attention. Miu Miu’s metallic, mixed-media rocker boots are comfortable and a treat to the eyes. The ladies are sure to love Miuccia Prada’s glittering high-heeled shoes for the 2016 spring/summer. Rebellious teens can try this brand’s soft satin ballet flats with miss-matched ribbons and buckled straps.
For spring 2016, Gucci has unveiled new loafer styles that have created a buzz among street style stars who are surely inquiring about how to pre-order these fashion assets. Alexander McQueen’s London Collection for Fall 2016 showcases smart lace-up derbies created in smooth black leather or pebbled burgundy, and for extra flourish they have an ultra-rounded toe offering. These clunky shoes are sure to floor the British who love this style.
French footwear designer Christian Louboutin’s Spring/Summer 2016 Collection is also eye-catching. “Dorispiky” is a 100mm round-toe espadon leather pump with spike-lined silhouette and dark gunmetal specchio contrast heel. Sneaker-lovers are sure to take the “Lou Spikes Flat” in attractive navy neoprene tablet, black prism rubber and red patent leather with spikes. If you are into dancing, try out the gorgeous “Soustelissimo” in outrageous patent leather, black suede, and gold glitter luminor features.
But how much, exactly, are top shoe collections worth? While we’ll probably never be allowed in on the secrets of any individual heiress’ hoard of shoes, it’s worth looking at how much some of the most expensive brands of shoes go for in order to get an idea. As you’re reading about the most expensive shoe brands in the world just keep in mind that some people have hundreds, even thousands, of pairs of these.
Gucci is an Italian luxury brand based in Florence but known worldwide, and one of the many luxury shops lining Rodeo Drive in Beverly Hills. But fear not: you can also buy them at Nordstrom’s. Known for comfort in addition to quality, a pair of Gucci shoes is una buona scelta, a good choice. Starting in the $600-$800 range and going up from there, the cost is just in range if you’re interested in splurging–but only barely.
9. Miu Miu
Do you need some pink suede gold metallic ankle boots? Because the answer to that question is obviously “YES!”, your next stop on the luxury top ten is three doors down from Gucci on Rodeo Drive and based up the road in Milan. At a similar price point to Gucci, Miu Miu has a quite eclectic style befitting the granddaughter of Mario Prada. The shoes have won an impressive passel of young devotees from Maggie Gyllenhaal to Kirsten Dunst. While there are offers as low as $500, you can expect to find them in the high hundreds and up.
8. Stuart Weitzman
Our next stop is a trip up a block from Gucci: Stuart Weitzman, still on Rodeo Drive. Although the company was founded in Massachusetts, it now manufactures in Spain. Using a variety of intriguing materials not commonly found in shoes–including cork, vinyl, and 24-carat gold–Weitzman aims for rare and unique shoes. While cheaper versions are available, the typical shoe is priced in the high hundreds from $600 and up. If you ask Weitzman, his once-a-year shoe for a chosen Oscar nominee is worth a million dollars–although I’m not sure he’s a trustworthy source.
7. Brian Atwood
Shockingly, our next entrant cannot be found on Rodeo Drive: Brian Atwood has a flagship store on Madison Avenue, one block from Central Park near Midtown Manhattan. Of course, Nordstrom’s also has them–or at least some pairs. Like many top luxury brands, these shows are carefully manufactured in Italy before being exported to the United States and elsewhere. While Nordstrom’s may have the entry-level Brian Atwoods, his high-end thigh-high boots can sell for many multiples of the roughly $600 prices that many of his basic shoes will cost.
6. Alexander McQueen
Eschewing chic Rodeo Drive for still-trendy Melrose, Alexander McQueen shoes are impossibly preposterous but still wondrous shoes that combine 16th century design, 19th century flourishes, and 21st century style. McQueen took an apprenticeship with a tailor before working for a theater costume company, and finally struck out on his own. While he passed away in 2010, his company lives on and McQueen’s imprint remains. While you can find shoes in the $600 range, you’ll have no trouble dropping $1500 or more on an exquisite pair of heels.
5. Walter Steiger
Competing in a world of high luxury shoes, Walter Steiger is especially known for being innovative, colorful, and unique with designs, while still being high quality and sought-after. The brand’s unique designs do not go unnoticed by collectors and fashionistas from around the world, who drop thousands of dollars on these shoes. Curvy heels are Walter Steiger’s specialty design, a shape difficult to nail in a shoe. These shoes start in the $500 range and are priced well into the thousands.
4. Christian Louboutin
Christian Louboutin shoes are known for their iconic red soles and ground-breakingly high heels. In fact, the red soles are so in demand that the company has an entire division dedicated to finding knockoffs. The most expensive of Christian Louboutin’s 2013 collection was Sexy Strass which you can still purchase at Barneys New York for $3,095.
3. Jimmy Choo
Jimmy Choo brand shoes are a favorite of Hollywood’s elite, and frequently are the shoes of choice for walking down the Red Carpet in style. Most Jimmy Choos range in price from the upper hundreds, to a couple of thousand. The most expensive of Jimmy Choos “iconic” 2011 collection sold for $3,785. Having been around since the 1980s, this is one she brand that has gained a huge cult following.
2. Manolo Blahnik
Manolo Blahnik, though popular today, were against the fashion norms when they were first made in the 1970s. At the time, platform shoes and boots were all the rage, and few were wearing heels, let alone high-fashion stilettos. Part of the reason these shoes are so expensive has to do with the exotic materials with which they are made. Some of the most expensive Monolos are the Blixa alligator, which is of course made with alligator skin. These shoes can be purchased at Barneys New York for $4,600.
1. Louis Vuitton
Famous for shoes, purses, and luggage Louis Vuitton is a household name in the households of the elite. Louis Vuitton products, while known in part for their trendiness, are particularly loved by followers for generations of high-quality craftsmanship. In fact, Louis Vuitton brand has been around since 1854. Between 2006 and 2012 this brand won the title of Most Valuable Luxury Brand. The most expensive Louis Vuitton shoes to ever sell were, in fact, men’s shoes. Manhattan Richelieu Men’s Shoes, released in 2010, are the most expensive shoes on earth at $10,000.
Helping Children to deal with aggression
Ask any parent whether she wants her child to be an aggressive person and you are likely to get more than one answer. After all, aggression is associated with both approved and disapproved behavior in our minds and in our society—both with the energy and purpose that help us to actively master the challenges of life and with hurtful actions and destructive forces.
Most of us want our children to be able to take a stand for themselves when others treat them roughly. We hope that they will not start fights but if attacked will be able to cope with the attacker and not be overwhelmed. A child’s learning to find a healthy balance between too much and too little aggressive behavior is probably the most difficult task of growing up.
According to developmental theory, aggressive impulses or drives are born in the human child and are a crucial aspect of the psychological life-force and of survival. In the course of healthy development, these drives are normally expressed in various behaviors at different ages and, with assistance from parents and others, are gradually brought under the control of the individual—moderated, channeled, and regulated, but by no means stamped out.
Aggression Is Part of Healthy Development
During the first year, infants are not often thought of as behaving aggressively, and yet encounters in which an infant pushes, pulls, or exerts force against another are signs of the outwardly directed energy and assertiveness that reflect the healthy maturation of aggression. But the 9-month old who pulls your hair does not know that it might hurt—it is done in the same exuberant, playful spirit that is seen in other activities. It is only in the second year, when the child develops a better awareness of his separateness as a person—of “me” and “you”—that he can begin to understand that he is angry at someone and behave with intentional force. We do not usually talk about a child’s being cruel or hostile toward others until some time during the second year. Even then, he does not know enough about cause and effect to understand the consequences of his action or how to regulate this behavior toward others. When your 15-month-old smashes a fragile object, he is caught up in the pleasure of assertiveness, not anticipating its result.
Parents sometimes tell me about their toddler who “knows better” than to hit or bite. They believe this is so because when he is scolded, he looks ashamed. What the toddler understands is not that he has hurt someone or destroyed something but that he has earned the disapproval of his parents. Conversely, when praised for being gentle with another, he knows and is pleased that he is approved of for that behavior at that moment. It will take time and many reminders before he can understand that not hitting or biting applies to many situations. Young children, particularly those under 3½, scarcely know their own strength. The differences between a kiss and a bite, between patting and hitting, between nudging and pushing someone down are not automatically understood and children need many reminders: such as, “Let me show you how to pat the baby (or the family dog or Daddy’s cheek)”; “Patting feels nice. Hitting can hurt”; or “Do it softly (or gently), like this.”
Learning “What to Expect” at Different Ages and Stages
As is true of the young child’s development in other areas, there are steps and phases in the socialization of aggression, and it is worth your while to learn something about what kind of behavior to expect at various ages. If you understand what an infant or toddler or a 4-year-old is capable of, you can adjust your own actions and teaching to realistic expectations and save yourself worry and frustration. You don’t need the anxiety of imagining that your toddler who gets very angry and has very little control over his aggression when frustrated or upset is destined to become an angry, destructive, uncontrolled 4- or 10- or 20-year-old. On the other hand, if your 4-year-old has frequent aggressive outbursts and seems not to be concerned about the effect of his aggression, or even seems to enjoy hurting others, you are correct in being worried and in seeking ways to help him toward healthier behavior.
Parenting Strategies for Managing Aggression in Very Young Children
How then do parents moderate and channel their child’s aggression without stamping it out by being too severe? While there is no exact recipe, here are 12 suggestions that may help you to provide your child with the guidance he needs.
- Limits are part of loving. Keep in mind that your child’s feeling loved and affectionately cared for builds the foundation for his acceptance of the guidance you will provide as he grows. Children who feel loved want to please their parents most of the time and will respond to their guidance. Putting reasonable restrictions on your child’s behavior is part of loving him, just as are feeding, comforting, playing, and responding to his wishes.
- Try to figure out what triggered your child’s aggressive behavior. Ask yourself what might have happened that set him off—your behavior or that of another person, or something else in the situation; perhaps he is overtired or not feeling well physically. Being rushed, abruptly handled, being denied something he wants, even being unable to do something he has tried to do with a toy or physical activity often produces feelings of frustration and anger that result in aggressive behavior.
- Use what you know. Make use of what you know about your child’s temperament, rhythms, preferences, and sensitivities. For example, if you know that he is irritable or ill-humored for the first hour of the day or gets very out of sorts when tired or hungry, you won’t pick that time to ask a great deal in the way of control.
- Be clear. Tell your child what you want him to do or not do in a specific situation (but try not to give a long lecture). Your child will be aware of your displeasure from your tone of voice as well as from what you say. It is important that you try to be clear about your disapproval. However, long lectures and dire predictions are usually counterproductive. Telling a 3-year-old child that she can’t have any television for 2 weeks if she hits her baby brother may upset her, but it is unlikely to help her understand and develop her own controls. A better reason is that you don’t want her to hit him because it hurts. That you don’t like the behavior is your most effective message. It helps any young child who has earned the disapproval of a parent to be reminded that she is loved even when you don’t like the behavior.
- Be a careful observer. When your young child is playing with other children, keep an eye on the situation but try not to hover. What begins as playful scuffling or run and chase or sharing toys can quickly move into a battle between children, and they may need a referee. However, there are times when you can let young children work things out among themselves. Age makes a difference, of course.
- Use redirection. When your child is being aggressive in ways you don’t like, stop the behavior and give him something else to do. You may either suggest and help start a new activity or perhaps guide him to a place where he can discharge aggressive feelings without doing harm to himself, to anyone else, to toys, or to the family pet. For example, a corner in which there is something to punch or bang or throw at can be utilized. You can say, for example, “If you feel like hitting, go and hit your pillow (or punching bag), but you can’t hit the dog (or bang the table with a hammer).” Such an opportunity not only helps the child discharge some aggressive feelings but also helps him understand that there can be a time and place provided for such actions.
- Be a coach. When time permits, demonstrate how to handle a situation in which there is conflict between children. For instance, if your child is old enough, you can teach him a few words to use in order to avoid or settle a conflict. A 2-year-old can be helped to hold on to a toy and say “no” or “mine” instead of always pushing or crying when another child tries to take a toy. Children need specific suggestions and demonstrations from adults in order to learn that there are effective ways to handle disagreements that are more acceptable than physical attack and retaliation.
- Use language. If your child has language skills, help him explain what he is angry about. If you are able to guess and he cannot say, do it for him, such as, “I guess you’re mad because you can’t go to play with Johnny. I know how you feel, but it’s too late to go today” (or whatever the reason is).
- Ask yourself if you are sending “mixed messages” to your child about his aggressiveness. If you say “Don’t hit” or “Be nice” while you are not so secretly enjoying your child’s aggressive behavior toward someone else, he will be confused, and such confusions tend to make it more difficult to develop self-control.
- Be a role model. Keep in mind that parents are the most important models for behavior and how to use aggression in a healthy way. If social exchanges in your family include much arguing or physical fighting in the presence or hearing of your children, you can count on their picking it up. Home environments like these can be unsafe and unhealthy for everyone in the family. If you are coping with a violent partner, call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 or 1-800-787-3244 (TTY) for support, shelter, or services, or visit Stop Family Violence for more information on getting the support and help you need.
- Avoid spanking. Think about the very real disadvantages of physical punishment for your child. Children often arouse anger in adults when they provoke, tease, behave stubbornly, or attack others. If your practice is to hit or physically punish your child in some other way for such behavior, you need to think very carefully about what he learns from that.
- Be patient; learning takes time. Your child’s learning to love and live in reasonable harmony with others comes about only gradually and over many years. For you as parents there will always be ups and downs, periods when you despair of “civilizing” your child or when you will worry that he will be too timid for the rigors of the world. While living from day to day with the pleasures and frustrations of being a parent, it is also important to keep the long view in mind: there is a positive momentum to development. This forward thrust of your child’s growth and development actually works in favor of his acquiring the ability to channel and productively use those aggressive energies that are a vital part of our makeup.
Advice from Billionaire CEO – Sara Blakely
Sara Blakely founded Spanx in her late 20s. The company made $4 million in sales in its first year and $10 million in its second year. In 2012, Forbes named Blakely the youngest self-made woman billionaire in the world.
She is clearly massively successful. Yet when asked what the best advice she ever received was, she doesn’t talk about success.
Instead, she talks about how, as a child, her father would sit her down at the dining room table and ask her the same question:
“What did you fail at this week?”
He didn’t want to know how many As she’d gotten. He wasn’t interested in how many girl scout cookies she’d sold, how many goals she’d scored on her soccer team, or whether she’d gotten a perfect score on her math test.
No, he wanted to know what she had failed at. And when she told him, do you know what his reaction was?
He high-fived her.
Think about that for a minute: Every week growing up, her father made her reflect on something she’d failed at, then showed her that not only was she still loved after failing, but she was celebrated for it.
In an interview for Fortune, Blakely said, “I didn’t realize at the time how much this advice would define not only my future, but my definition of failure. I have realized as an entrepreneur that so many people don’t pursue their idea because they were scared or afraid of what could happen. My dad taught me that failing simply just leads you to the next great thing.”
Speaking of that, Blakely herself failed the LSATs twice before founding Spanx. On that particular chapter of her life, she says, “It was one of many tests that showed me how some of the biggest failures in our lives just nudge us into another path.”
Those who’ve made it big repeat that one of the main reasons they got to where they are is by taking risks. Over and over, they talk about the importance of taking leaps, which sometimes means falling down:
- “Only those who dare to fail greatly can ever achieve greatly.” —Robert F. Kennedy
- “Failure is another steppingstone to greatness.” —Oprah
- “I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.” —Thomas Edison
Yet, for as many times as we are told that taking risks is good and failing is OK, we tend to shy away from it in our own lives. Why? Probably because we grew up in schools that tended to only reward “success” (getting the answer right). We were trained to become perfectionists.
If you’re going to rewrite that script, it’s not going to be by convincing yourself of it intellectually. It’s going to be by actually doing things you’re not sure of or good at, then being proud of yourself for failing. It’s not just the failing that’ll help you get there–it’s the encouragement for trying in the first place.
So: What have you failed at this week?
If you can’t think of anything, go find something to suck at. If you can, give yourself a high-five.
Then go fail at something else.